I have always known that there were many of us going through the same thing behind closed doors at the same time. I guess I didn't realize how many of us feel the same way, completely alone. I have recently been thanked quite a bit for writing my blog, it has given some people a small amount of relief knowing that they are not alone in this. I wish that there were a more personal way than being on the other end of a computer somewhere out there for us all to reassured. The methods they have come up with so far aren't working as no one I have spoken to feels comfortable going outside their little box for fear of rumours and fallout with partner's careers. This is bull$*%#! Sorry for the direct language but there isn't really any other descriptive work that quite covers it.
In this community we seem to band together for a deployment and there's a ton of moral support from other spouses and then they come home and we're all on our own. I remember feeling like I had crawled into a hole and became invisible. No one came to my door anymore and the coffee dates stopped. Why do we do this to each other? Why is this community more apt to discuss others behind their backs than checking to see if the other is ok. I will admit to having been guilty of this in the past, and then I felt the other side of that sword, take it from me, it's not nice. I have tried ever since to stay out of those circles and have found myself very isolated because of it.
So here's my question, and I would love feedback...
If serving with the military creates a brotherhood seldom found elsewhere, why isn't there a sisterhood with their partners?
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